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My Mistake, Her Choice

And our rights

Terry Barr
6 min readJul 2, 2022
Photo by Letizia Bordoni on Unsplash

Two weeks before Christmas, 1983. I’m home from grad school, sound asleep, my parents both at work, and the phone rings:

“Hullo.”

“Terry, it’s….I’m pregnant, and I need some money for an abortion.”

“Oh. Sure. How much is it?”

“$250.”

“I’ll go to my bank this morning and wire it to you.”

“I’ll pay you back.”

“No, we’ll split the cost. Do you want me to come up and go with you?”

“No. I want to do it tomorrow. I can’t wait. Annette is going with me; besides, we’re done, right?”

“Yeah…about us. Listen…I’m sorry.”

“Yeah, me too.”

IT WENT PRETTY MUCH LIKE THAT.

This is a memoir, creative nonfiction, and while I remember much of this conversation, I remember how it felt even more precisely, even after almost four decades.

It felt like shit.

Not just the out-of-the-blue call; not just the reality of the call and that I’d be deleting almost all the savings I had; and not just that I wouldn’t be there with her, to help her…

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Terry Barr
Terry Barr

Written by Terry Barr

I write about music, culture, equality, and my Alabama past in The Riff, The Memoirist, Prism and Pen, Counter Arts, and am an editor for Plethora of Pop.

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